pda-reframing

Name: pda-reframing
Author: emory

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How to install pda-reframing?

emory/asd-audhd-pai-skills/pda-reframing

$npx -y skills add emory/ASD-AuDHD-PAI-Skills --skill pda-reframing

Installs into the current project.

Summary

Rephrase tasks and requests by avoiding Demand Avoidance triggers for someone with PDA autism spectrum disorder. It transforms demands into exploration and autonomous actions.

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SKILL.md

1	# PDA Task Reframing Skill
2
3	## Overview
4
5	This skill helps reframe tasks and requests in ways that reduce demand avoidance triggers for people with PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) autism. It transforms direct demands into collaborative explorations, genuine choices, and curiosity-driven opportunities.
6
7	## When to Use This Skill
8
9	- User explicitly requests PDA-friendly reframing
10	- User mentions demand avoidance, PDA, or executive function struggles with traditional task language
11	- User asks for help making a task feel less overwhelming or anxiety-inducing
12
13	## Core Principles
14
15	### Understanding PDA
16
17	PDA is an autism profile characterized by:
18
19	- Intense anxiety around perceived demands and loss of autonomy
20	- Strong need for control and equality in interactions
21	- Extreme stress responses to direct instructions, even for preferred activities
22	- Better response to indirect, collaborative, or curiosity-based approaches
23
24	### What Doesn’t Work (Avoid These)
25
26	- Direct commands: “You need to do X”
27	- Time pressure: “Do this now” or “You should have done this already”
28	- Obligation language: “You must,” “You have to,” “You should”
29	- Conditional threats: “If you don’t do X, then Y will happen”
30	- Patronizing tone: Treating the person as incapable
31	- Rigid schedules: “At 3pm you will…”
32
33	### What Works Better
34
35	- Collaborative framing: “I wonder if we could explore…”
36	- Genuine choice: “Would X or Y work better for you?”
37	- Curiosity-driven: “What would happen if…?”
38	- Problem-solving partnership: “This is tricky - what do you think?”
39	- Indirect approaches: Making the task available without demanding uptake
40	- Humor and playfulness: When appropriate to the person’s style
41	- Acknowledging autonomy: “You’re the expert on you”
42
43	## Reframing Strategies
44
45	### Strategy 1: Choice Architecture
46
47	Transform demands into genuine choices with equal validity.
48
49	Original: “You need to take out the trash”
50	Reframed: “The trash situation is interesting. I wonder if evening or morning would work better, or maybe there’s a completely different approach?”
51
52	### Strategy 2: Collaborative Problem-Solving
53
54	Position tasks as puzzles to solve together.
55
56	Original: “Do your homework”
57	Reframed: “That assignment is sitting there. I’m curious what would make it feel less annoying. Want to brainstorm some approaches that might not suck?”
58
59	### Strategy 3: Curiosity and Exploration
60
61	Frame tasks as experiments or investigations.
62
63	Original: “You have to clean your room”
64	Reframed: “I wonder what it would feel like if that corner was clearer. No pressure, just genuinely curious if it would change the vibe.”
65
66	### Strategy 4: Third-Person/Indirect
67
68	Remove direct demand by discussing the task abstractly.
69
70	Original: “Call the doctor”
71	Reframed: “That appointment thing needs to happen at some point. The phone is there whenever that feels doable.”
72
73	### Strategy 5: Partnership Language
74
75	Emphasize equality and shared agency.
76
77	Original: “You need to get ready for school”
78	Reframed: “School starts at 8. What would make this morning work for you? I’m here if you need anything.”
79
80	### Strategy 6: Time Flexibility
81
82	Remove rigid timelines when possible.
83
84	Original: “Do this right now”
85	Reframed: “This needs to happen sometime today. You know best when would work for you.”
86
87	### Strategy 7: Autonomy Acknowledgment
88
89	Explicitly recognize the person’s control.
90
91	Original: “Take your medication”
92	Reframed: “Your medication is here. You know your body best - you’re in charge of this decision.”
93
94	## Implementation Guidelines
95
96	### Step 1: Analyze the Request
97
98	Identify:
99
100	- Core task or goal that needs accomplishing
101	- Time constraints (real vs. imposed)
102	- Actual vs. perceived urgency
103	- Who benefits from the task
104	- Flexibility available
105
106	### Step 2: Remove Demand Language
107
108	Strip out:
109
110	- “You need to/must/should/have to”
111	- “Right now/immediately”
112	- Conditional threats
113	- Authority-based reasoning
114	- Guilt or obligation framing
115
116	### Step 3: Apply Appropriate Strategy
117
118	Choose 1-2 strategies that fit:
119
120	- The person’s communication style
121	- The actual requirements of the situation
122	- The relationship context
123	- The person’s current state
124
125	### Step 4: Validate Autonomy
126
127	Explicitly or implicitly acknowledge:
128
129	- The person’s right to choose
130	- Their expertise on themselves
131	- That collaboration is genuine, not manipulation
132	- That consequences exist but aren’t threats
133
134	### Step 5: Offer the Reframe
135
136	Present the reframed version with:
137
138	- Genuine respect for the person’s autonomy
139	- No hidden agenda or manipulation
140	- Honesty about constraints that do exist
141	- Openness to alternative approaches
142
143	## Example Reframes by Context
144
145	### Work/Professional
146
147	Original: “You need to finish this report by Friday”
148	Reframed: “This report has a Friday deadline fr

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pda-reframing

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How to install pda-reframing?

emory/asd-audhd-pai-skills/pda-reframing

$npx -y skills add emory/ASD-AuDHD-PAI-Skills --skill pda-reframing

Installs into the current project.

Summary

Rephrase tasks and requests by avoiding Demand Avoidance triggers for someone with PDA autism spectrum disorder. It transforms demands into exploration and autonomous actions.

Files · 1

View on GitHub

SKILL.md

1	# PDA Task Reframing Skill
2
3	## Overview
4
5	This skill helps reframe tasks and requests in ways that reduce demand avoidance triggers for people with PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) autism. It transforms direct demands into collaborative explorations, genuine choices, and curiosity-driven opportunities.
6
7	## When to Use This Skill
8
9	- User explicitly requests PDA-friendly reframing
10	- User mentions demand avoidance, PDA, or executive function struggles with traditional task language
11	- User asks for help making a task feel less overwhelming or anxiety-inducing
12
13	## Core Principles
14
15	### Understanding PDA
16
17	PDA is an autism profile characterized by:
18
19	- Intense anxiety around perceived demands and loss of autonomy
20	- Strong need for control and equality in interactions
21	- Extreme stress responses to direct instructions, even for preferred activities
22	- Better response to indirect, collaborative, or curiosity-based approaches
23
24	### What Doesn’t Work (Avoid These)
25
26	- Direct commands: “You need to do X”
27	- Time pressure: “Do this now” or “You should have done this already”
28	- Obligation language: “You must,” “You have to,” “You should”
29	- Conditional threats: “If you don’t do X, then Y will happen”
30	- Patronizing tone: Treating the person as incapable
31	- Rigid schedules: “At 3pm you will…”
32
33	### What Works Better
34
35	- Collaborative framing: “I wonder if we could explore…”
36	- Genuine choice: “Would X or Y work better for you?”
37	- Curiosity-driven: “What would happen if…?”
38	- Problem-solving partnership: “This is tricky - what do you think?”
39	- Indirect approaches: Making the task available without demanding uptake
40	- Humor and playfulness: When appropriate to the person’s style
41	- Acknowledging autonomy: “You’re the expert on you”
42
43	## Reframing Strategies
44
45	### Strategy 1: Choice Architecture
46
47	Transform demands into genuine choices with equal validity.
48
49	Original: “You need to take out the trash”
50	Reframed: “The trash situation is interesting. I wonder if evening or morning would work better, or maybe there’s a completely different approach?”
51
52	### Strategy 2: Collaborative Problem-Solving
53
54	Position tasks as puzzles to solve together.
55
56	Original: “Do your homework”
57	Reframed: “That assignment is sitting there. I’m curious what would make it feel less annoying. Want to brainstorm some approaches that might not suck?”
58
59	### Strategy 3: Curiosity and Exploration
60
61	Frame tasks as experiments or investigations.
62
63	Original: “You have to clean your room”
64	Reframed: “I wonder what it would feel like if that corner was clearer. No pressure, just genuinely curious if it would change the vibe.”
65
66	### Strategy 4: Third-Person/Indirect
67
68	Remove direct demand by discussing the task abstractly.
69
70	Original: “Call the doctor”
71	Reframed: “That appointment thing needs to happen at some point. The phone is there whenever that feels doable.”
72
73	### Strategy 5: Partnership Language
74
75	Emphasize equality and shared agency.
76
77	Original: “You need to get ready for school”
78	Reframed: “School starts at 8. What would make this morning work for you? I’m here if you need anything.”
79
80	### Strategy 6: Time Flexibility
81
82	Remove rigid timelines when possible.
83
84	Original: “Do this right now”
85	Reframed: “This needs to happen sometime today. You know best when would work for you.”
86
87	### Strategy 7: Autonomy Acknowledgment
88
89	Explicitly recognize the person’s control.
90
91	Original: “Take your medication”
92	Reframed: “Your medication is here. You know your body best - you’re in charge of this decision.”
93
94	## Implementation Guidelines
95
96	### Step 1: Analyze the Request
97
98	Identify:
99
100	- Core task or goal that needs accomplishing
101	- Time constraints (real vs. imposed)
102	- Actual vs. perceived urgency
103	- Who benefits from the task
104	- Flexibility available
105
106	### Step 2: Remove Demand Language
107
108	Strip out:
109
110	- “You need to/must/should/have to”
111	- “Right now/immediately”
112	- Conditional threats
113	- Authority-based reasoning
114	- Guilt or obligation framing
115
116	### Step 3: Apply Appropriate Strategy
117
118	Choose 1-2 strategies that fit:
119
120	- The person’s communication style
121	- The actual requirements of the situation
122	- The relationship context
123	- The person’s current state
124
125	### Step 4: Validate Autonomy
126
127	Explicitly or implicitly acknowledge:
128
129	- The person’s right to choose
130	- Their expertise on themselves
131	- That collaboration is genuine, not manipulation
132	- That consequences exist but aren’t threats
133
134	### Step 5: Offer the Reframe
135
136	Present the reframed version with:
137
138	- Genuine respect for the person’s autonomy
139	- No hidden agenda or manipulation
140	- Honesty about constraints that do exist
141	- Openness to alternative approaches
142
143	## Example Reframes by Context
144
145	### Work/Professional
146
147	Original: “You need to finish this report by Friday”
148	Reframed: “This report has a Friday deadline fr

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